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Thomas Raymond Oldham passed away peacefully, surrounded by his loving children, on October 12, 2023. He enjoyed 88 years of a beautiful and blessed life. Tom was a lover and a fighter. He loved his wife and family with all of his heart and he fought serious illness courageously for the last year. We are grateful for a lifetime of incredible memories, with the end bringing us closer than ever. We will always treasure the extra time we had with him. He is survived by his six children, ten grandchildren, and two great grandsons.
Tom was born in Columbus, OH on March 3, 1935. He spent his childhood and adolescent years in Ohio; formative years, part of which was spent in an orphanage that greatly influenced his entire life. As a teenager he moved to California where he attended St. Francis High School. He was drafted into the Army and proudly served our country in the Korean War. Prior to leaving for the service, he met the love of his life Delores Wingate. They had a courtship through love letters that progressed from learning about each other to falling in love. Upon returning from Korea, Tom and Delores married and began growing their family. Their faith was a connection that guided them throughout their courtship, marriage, raising their children, and their entire lives. Tom, Delores, and all their children were actively involved in their parish and parish school St. Norbert’s in Orange. Tom had a passion and gift for singing and was a member of the church choir and cantered many church services and events, including his children’s and granddaughter’s weddings. The priests at the parish called him “Pipe’s” because of his distinct and beautiful voice. He blessed us with his singing for many years and even wrote and sang beautiful songs for his beloved wife Delores.
Tom was a huge supporter of his family. He loved spending time with his kids, grandkids, and great grandsons. He would help with anything at any time. He was a carpenter by trade and could fix anything. He was incredibly generous with his time, but he was also very thoughtful and loved to shop for the perfect gift. He took such pleasure in watching the reaction when the gift was opened. Christmas Eve was his favorite, but He and Delores had a special tradition with their grandkids. They celebrated ½ birthdays with a special lunch, gift, and a cake. He loved spending that special celebration with his grandkids and made each grandchild feel special.
Tom was almost equally as passionate about sports as he was his family. He combined both of those loves by attending countless games for his children and grandchildren. All his children were involved in sports throughout their youth. He helped coach his children and grandchildren’s teams throughout the years, and loved watching Sunday football with his kids. He would travel far and wide to watch his kids and grandkids play in their games. He was very passionate about sports, some would call it an obsession, as evident by his multiple VCR’s where he recorded multiple games and sports around the world 24 hours a day thanks to his satellite dish.
Tom was recently preceded in death by his beloved wife Delores of 62 years. He is survived by Donna(spouse Glenn Androsko, son Max), Raymond(spouse Julie, daughters Alyssa(spouse Tanner Joyce, sons Hudson, Ford), Andrea and Amanda), Gregory(spouse Teresa, children Brian, Tyler Alt, Hannah Alt, and Noah Alt), Nancy(spouse Mark Pellegrino, daughter Aubrey), James(spouse Sara, children Rachael and Paul), Paul(spouse Jenny, children Torie and Ryan).
While we are sad that Tom has passed, we take comfort in knowing that his health has been restored, he is breathing free and easy, and that he is singing to Delores and dancing with his sister Pat with Our Lord in Heaven. Our hearts are happy that he has reunited with his bride Delores, and many family members who have also passed, and one day we will see him again.